Why Is There Such A Human Desire To Find A Mate?

One of my fellow hostel guests in the Hostel Hanging Gardens of Babylonia, in Montevideo, Uruguay, asks a very good question, basic to every human heart. Prem Sarga, of Holland, wants to know:

“Why do humans have an innate hunger within themselves to find a mate. Not just anyone, but The One for them?”

She had just said goodbye to a  man she’d known only for a few hours of conversation; but both of them felt that they had “known each other before in some other life.” He was returning to Europe; she had just arrived to settle in Uruguay. Chances are, that without deliberate planning, they will never meet again in this lifetime. With such a limited time to get acquainted, much had been left unsaid to open the door to future communication. Neither had confessed to the impact that the other one had made; so no addresses were exchanged or hopes to stay in touch admitted. Soon, it was time to say goodbye and that was that! I found her, still mourning this loss of new-found hope, in the hostel kitchen, chopping vegetables for dinner.

With tears, she asked about this bewildering sort of attraction. I told her that she had just met an InterGalactic Friend, (an IGF) ; that it always feels this way; and that even if neither speaks about it to the other, it rakes both, equally. It’s always mutual and it’s very, very rare.

I promised to take dictation on the question of: Why, now that Prem has felt such an impact, will she always hold out for an IGF quality mate?

“Oh, My Linda Layli, Layli Linda! When you are taken Up Here, We will tell you all about this IGF Phenomenon, but meantime, everyone you talk to about it; when they feel it, you have taught them how to love and to listen to their “Angel of Love,” who exists inside of their sternum bone, and will not come out and will not even stir or awaken, until she finds one of these special, special people whom she recognizes from many associations on the Upper Level.

She, your Angel of Love, is usually so disappointed that she can be terribly sad if she has to say goodbye soon after meeting one of these special, special human beings, whom she has already known and loved in the Upper Kingdom.”

The kitchen became busy and dictation ended, so I’ll continue this definition by quoting a few excerpts from my chapter about InterGalactic Friendship in my book, In Secret Diffusion.

“They are people whom you have known instantly, every time you have met them, throughout every one of your lives. That is all that it is: recognition of old friends and you feel just like you always did towards each other. It’s just that, in a new lifetime, you both know that you have never met before and so, you think that it’s something somewhat supernatural, though it’s actually the most natural of all friendships.”

Is this Love At First Sight?

“Yes it is and no it’s not. If the circumstances are right for falling in love, that might happen and then it would be true. But, these individuals meet you in so many different forms and often are not eligible for a personal, loving relationship. Many are already married, or their age is too far from your own. It doesn’t matter to the instant friendship, which always forms; but “ships passing in the night” is the usual description of these InterGalactic Friendships. There is nothing planned for you to meet, at all. So, it’s completely random and that’s why it’s so very precious, each time it happens.”

Let’s say, hypothetically, that I met an available man who proved to be an InterGalactic Friend, and we formed a long-term, sexual relationship. Would the attraction remain at the initial high level, or would it settle down and become dulled over time, as many ordinary relationships tend to do?

“It would remain very powerful all of your lives. These relationships are old, long-time relationships, which don’t diminish for eons of time; so they are the ideal partnership for a marriage or a long-term friendship. It’s just that they are hard to find where circumstances are favorable for staying near each other. It’s magical when you appear together on one planet at the same time; so magical, so unexpected, and so special.”

Should we hold out for marriage to only an IGF?

“No, that’s impractical, though I know that’s what you have done. Having tasted this kind of unity between souls, it’s hard to settle for something less and the tragedy of being bound to another, if you should meet an available IGF, would be awful. It’s impossible to know if you ever will meet an IGF with the right combination for a marriage.”

Is it safe to say that we have been in love with an IGF sometime back in our evolution?

“Either as a love partner or a best friend. There are different kinds of IGFs. You usually can recognize the type and you both fall back into the old routine, automatically. There is, essentially, no estrangement on either side. So, yes, you have been very close in the past.”

Will we ever meet them again?

“Yes, you will! That is in a Dimension to which you all are heading, destined to spend forever together. Maybe not all at the same time, but these are the companions who are coalescing to be associated forever in the Realms Above. It’s like a training course that you are all going through, which leads to the same ultimate condition.”

And so, Prem, now you know why this chance meeting impacted you so powerfully. Had you been in the hostel the previous two weeks, as I was, you would have had plenty of time to get acquainted with this lovely man. As it is, you were “ships passing in the night,” and your heart hurts because your little Angel of Love, (AOL), got her hopes up upon the unexpected meeting of an old Love.

She’s tucked into your sternum bone and that’s why you ache to hug that stranger.  His Angel of Love lives in his sternum and they  urge the two of you to press your chests against each other for their sake. When that doesn’t happen, those two will grieve until they finally fall back asleep; not to waken until the next IGF, of that same lover-quality, comes along. Once they know how this feels, they don’t take too kindly to the ordinary, garden-variety of earthbound lovers.

But, whatcha’ gonna do? This occurrence is so rare and so delicate, that if you can be a little bit bold and give the friendship every chance to survive; then the four of you (that’s including two AOLs) just might get to live Happily Ever After!? It’s certainly worth it to try if you should ever recognize this powerful phenomenon again. Things may not happen instantly, because your meeting is like a bowling ball dropping on your heads; but it’s worth all the time and attention that it takes to nourish that sweet happenstance. Just remember, that it’s always mutual!

I have written a screenplay about this theme: http://studios.amazon.com/users/10660 , called Extraordinary. You can download it and read it on your computer. Here’s how to do that: either click on the Film name, Extraordinary on the above link or go to that script’s page: http://studios.amazon.com/projects/13075 and go to the bottom of the page. where it says Create Storyboard. Beside that, you’ll see a small box around a down arrow and the letters RTF. Click on those letters; a prompt will come up at the bottom of the screen. Choose to download onto your computer. Then, you can read it at leisure.

It’s a fun story about a telepathic connection that grows between a Hollywood movie star and a book Editor in New York City. They carry on an inner, long-distance, affair until their two Angels of Love take control of the situation and compile a script for him to shoot in New York, so that the two can finally meet. It’s a lighthearted comedy, but I can see it happening.

About Linda J. Brown

Linda is a solo around the world traveler, having slowly explored the world's two hemispheres. A third trip around the equator has just begun, planned to last at least four years. After living for a year in the spiritual and beautiful town of Santa Fe, New Mexico, she has transferred to the beautiful and spiritual town of San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. Feeling honored that the mysterious Hurricane Patricia paid her a call during her first week; she is none-the-less, eternally-grateful that this "worst hurricane in human history" decided to leave the planet alone, after all.
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